“Inner Mean Girl” Cleanse

So you know I just did a 3 day detox cleansing my body. Now I’m onto my mind!

I am doing a 40 day cleanse to give my “Inner Mean Girl” the boot!

If you’re like me, you’re tired of the self-depricating thoughts that play over and over in your head. Let’s replace them with Lady Gaga anthems, instead! (Alejandro, ale-ale-ale-alejandrooooo!)

During these 40 days, you’ll learn how to dump the 6 most toxic habits that contribute to your “inner mean girl.” You’ll receive weekly emails, support, and teleclasses, and videos.  Sounds amazing, right?

The cleanse begins on August 25th. Click here to register.

Oh, PS: It’s FREE!

When you want it bad…

That's me!

I was having a conversation with my mother last weekend and I was talking to her about my weight. If you recall, I wrote a post on weighing 134 pounds, a higher weight for me, yet not having any emotional attachment to it (which is HUMONGO in my world).

She asked me how did I do it? How did I break through all the negative, self-depricating voices, the sabatoging binges, the victim-mentality to arrive to where I am today: Positively happy and glowing in a slightly bigger body.

Cheryl Richardson, in her newsletter this week, summed it up perfectly:

You have to want a deeper, more conscious relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable or thin.

Ok people, this is so important that I’m going to say it again:

You have to want a deeper, more conscious relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable or thin.

It took me many, many, many years of being so nasty to myself bring me to where I am today. But there came a point when I said, Stop the Insanity! The negative self-talk tapes began to wear thin (no pun intended) on me, and it was a struggle to keep up a lower weight that wasn’t meant for me during this time in my life. Through the help of workshops, therapists, dietitians, friends, family, and LOTS, and I mean, LOTS, of self exploration, I realized that my relationship with myself and my body was more important than being thin.

I know this sounds cliche, but I still can’t believe I can utter the above sentence. I’m not going to lie–accepting yourself (and not even LOVING yourself, but just merely being OK with where you are now) can be an uncomfortable, tough place to be. When the rest of the world and your friends are dieting away, and you’re just trying to figure out if your body wants ice cream or just tired, it’s uncomfortable. And when the scale creeps up instead of down, and your skinny jeans no longer fit, it’s uncomfortable.

But that moment when you decide, You know what? I don’t give a fuck, is worth it. Believe me, it’s so worth it.

I just took some headshots this weekend and when I looked at the photos, the first thought was: Damn, I look good! Not: my thighs look big, and oh-my-god, do I have a tricep-waddle? Ok, maybe that creeped in a bit, I am only human, after all. But it feels so good to celebrate myself and my beauty.

If you’re not ready to give up on your attachment to being “thin,” whatever that means to you, that’s OK. But I promise that one day you’ll want to change that tape in your head. And when you’re ready, come talk to me, and we’ll start you on the right path.

Fashion Forward

What does the way you dress say about you? What message are you sending out to the world with the way you present yourself?

That’s a question that I discussed in my Total Immersion Intuitive Eating coaching class with the fabulous JoLaine Jones. When I was asked that question, “How do you think the world sees you?” I found it difficult to answer. I hadn’t really given it much thought!

I thought about how my style has changed over the past 10 years…from relaxed, hippie-vibed clothing in the beginning of college (OK, I still break it out for Phish shows), to the tight-formfitting leopard pants I pranced around in when I lost 25 pounds (man, I miss those), to being a label-whore in NYC right after college, to mastering business casual attire for work, and always my trusty “uniform” on the weekends of Lululemon pants and yoga gear.  I have had so many fashion changes I feel like Lady Gaga! (Luckily I never gave in to the Jersey Shore look…I don’t think I’d look so good with a Snooki pouf!)

The past year or so, I’ve really come into my own. I wear clothing that makes me feel GOOD, whether it be sweatpants, stretch pants, or jeans. I dress for comfort first, style next. What do I say to the world? I feel GOOD about myself, my body, and I’m confident.

So really think about it: How does what you wear (your makeup, accessories, clothing, etc) tell the world about you? And if it’s not the message you are satisfied with, how can you make changes? Perhaps blow dry your hair once a week, or try a little colored lip gloss next time you go out. Or my personal fave: Rock some high heels just to the store. Nothing makes you feel better!

The most important lesson I’ve learned as a fashion chameleon is to wear what you feel GOOD in, what speaks to you. Who cares what other people think! I’ve seen people walk around with a cat perched on their head (NO JOKE!), and you know what, it’s AWESOME.

For me, I’m a little more low key…it’s casual one day and luxe the next, but I always try to make myself feel gorgeous.

From the inside out, of course!