Posts tagged ‘self love’
Y’all know I love me some gratitude! This was inspired by the Self-Discovery, Word by Word Blogger series (more info on that and how you can participate below)
After so many years battling the shape of my body, today I proudly share what I am grateful for, from toes to head.
I am grateful for my feet. One bunion surgery, 100’s of late night dancing in sky-high stilettos, mountains climbed and miles walked later, my feet have carried me through it all. And hot-dang do I love me a good pedicure.
I am grateful for my calves. OK, so I have to buy knee-high boots for women with larger-sized calves. Whatever. But they’re athletic and strong.
I am grateful for my knees. For as much activity as I’ve seen in my 30 years, I’ve never had a problem with these joints. Keep hanging in there, girls!
I am grateful for my thighs. I can leg press over 200 pounds. I’ve climbed glaciers. I’ve run miles. And although they often been my greatest enemy at times, I am grateful because they’re mine.
I am grateful for my butt. Ah, gluteus maximus (and minimus!), you power me through spin classes. And you turn heads.
I am grateful for my waist. So tiny and toned, I never have to do a sit-up as long as I live. (Thanks for the genetics, Mom!)
I am grateful for my breasts. Yup, they’re small, but they’re all natural, baby.
I am grateful for my arms. Bless you, genetics. I am the proud owner of beautiful, toned, shapely arms that look great in tank tops. My arms are also able to carry pounds and pounds of groceries and shopping bags with no problem, making the envy of all other New Yorkers.
I am grateful for my back. So strong after years of weight lifting.
I am grateful for my shoulders. For putting up with purses that are way too heavy. For responding to physical therapy.
I am grateful for my collarbone and neck. My most favorite part of my body. Graceful, strong and very Audrey Heburn.
I am grateful for my hair. And this is only because I have the Keratin Brazilian treatment. 😉
I am grateful that I love my body at a weight I previously thought was unlovable.
I am grateful for all that my body has allowed me to do, and will do in the future.
What parts of your body are you grateful for?
This post is part of the Self-Discovery, Word by Word series created by Ashley of Nourishing Wisdom and other bloggers. The goal of this series is to challenge ourselves to reflect on ideas that we may not often consider in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives. The words that are chosen are meant to provoke thought and ultimately growth. As part of the blogging community (whether you are a blog reader or a have your own), we all have a unique opportunity to share our insights, our struggles, and our triumphs to help each other develop in new ways. The words selected will be broad and hopefully of interest to all types of bloggers and readers. Click here for more information on how you can participate!
I received the following email in my inbox this morning. I do not know the origins of this story, as it has been circulating around the web for some time. So unfortunately I cannot give credit to the author..but whoever you are, THANK YOU!
The Mermaid and the Whale
Recently, in a large French city, a poster featuring a young,thin and tanned woman appeared in the window of a gym.
It said: “THIS SUMMER DO YOU WANT TO BE A MERMAID OR A WHALE?”
A middle aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posed by the gym.
To Whom It May Concern:
Whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, sea lions, curious humans). They have an active sex life, they get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time with dolphins, stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Barren Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia. Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs.
They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans. They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.
Mermaids don’t exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of Argentinean psychoanalysts due to identity crisis. Fish or human? They don’t have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex? Therefore they don’t have kids either. Not to mention who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store?
The choice is perfectly clear to me; I want to be a whale.
We are in an age when media puts into our heads the idea that only skinny people are beautiful, but I prefer to enjoy an ice cream with my kids, a good dinner with a man who makes me shiver and a coffee with my friends. With time we gain weight because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren’t heavy, we are enormously cultured, educated and happy. Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, “Good gosh, look how smart I am!”
Last week, I wrote about the 40-day self-love practice with one single focus:
My body is a TEMPLE.
So far, it been incredible for me. I ask myself each morning what I need to make my body feel good…and then I actually follow through with it. The first few days my body wanted to MOVE, so I used the stairs instead of the elevator and went for walks during the day. Another day my body wanted to eat “cleanly,” so I amped up my veggie intake.
Yesterday, my body wanted to go out and enjoy the day, and then REST…which is what I did, unapologetically. My body did not want to get up and cook dinner. She wanted to take a luxurious bath instead, so that’s what I did. Took a bath and ordered take-out. Sans guilt. It felt DREAMY.
My body is entering it’s 30th year on Friday (Happy Birthday to Me!). For 30 years, I’ve had a roller coaster relationship with my body. I’ve spent the past 10 years, specifically, revolting against her, wanting to change her, yet (obviously) never succeeding. I’ve been a size 0 and a size 10 and everything in between, yet never been happy with what God has given me.
That’s why this 40-day practice is so important and so inspiring. To say, “Thank you for sharing,” to those nasty thoughts and only entertain the positive, “Thank you. I love you,” thoughts is extremely empowering.
Here’s an example of a simple, yet profound, experience that I had on Friday: My temple needed new bras. The one’s that I had been wearing were old, ratty, and matronly. I decided this time to go to a professional for a bra fitting, and hallelujah, the results were incredible! Not only did I get pretty new bras, but I now wear the correct size (smaller back and larger cup size–hooray!). My “twins” are situated exactly where they are meant to and I feel damn good. I even splurged (OK, really splurged) on a gorgeous, colorful, frilly bra and underwear set for those days where I need a pick-me-up. After all, my temple is worth it.
Do you want to better your relationship with your body, obey it’s demands, and embark on this challenge with me? Get the details here and join me!
P.S. I’ve said this before, but I wholeheartedly believe that health and wellness is a total-body process. Nutrition and healthy eating is only one piece of the puzzle. What’s the point of eating a nutritious diet if you’re filling yourself up with negative self-talk. Taking care of yourself: body, mind, and spirit, is necessary for total LIFE WELLNESS!
Please join me on an amazing, 40 day practice centered around building a better relationship with your body–aka–your temple.
Yes, 40 days is a long time. I can’t even commit to an hour long TV show. But as someone who has taken on self-love challenges before, commiting to honoring and loving yourself EVERY DAY brings about radical changes and cool “a-ha!” lightbulb moments.
Check out the challenge HERE–and leave a comment if you plan on joining me!
Check out the Madly In Love With Me movement Facebook page, too!
As many of you know, after 10 long years of dieting and trying to morph my body into something it, quite simply, is not, I’ve given up my pipe dream. Alas, I’m not going to grace the cover of Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition. I’m hard at work at Intuitive Eating, learning to trust my body, myself around food, and handle my emotions (rather than binge eating).
In my spare time, I’ve been reading every book I can get my hands on and joining every group, subscribing to every newsletter, about Intuitive Eating. Currently I’m enrolled in an 8-week program called Total Immersion Intuitive Eating with coach JoLaine Jones (don’t you just love that name?) of Genuine You Coaching, honing my self-love skills.
However, during my search, I came across an incredible movement called Health at Every Size (HAES), started by author Linda Bacon, PhD. What is this movement? According to Bacon’s book, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight:
Let’s face facts. We’ve lost the war on obesity. Fighting fat hasn’t made the fat go away. And being thinner, even if we knew how to successfully accomplish it, will not necessarily make us healthier or happier. The war on obesity has taken its toll. Extensive “collateral damage” has resulted: Food and body preoccupation, self-hatred, eating disorders, discrimination, poor health… Few of us are at peace with our bodies, whether because we’re fat or because we fear becoming fat.
Health at Every Size is the new peace movement.
Very simply, it acknowledges that good health can best be realized independent from considerations of size. It supports people—of all sizes—in addressing health directly by adopting healthy behaviors.
The HAES movement encourages people of all sizes to improve their health through improving, and honoring, their relationship with their body. We should adopt a healthy lifestyle out of R-E-S-P-E-C-T for our body, not to be a number on a scale or a size tag inside our pants.
As someone who has struggled with body image, binge eating, and dieting for much of my young adulthood, this is something that truly resonates with me.
I encourage you to check out the HAES website, sign their pledge, join the community, and start taking steps to love yourself…and others…totally and completely.
UPDATE: I am honored that Linda Bacon PhD herself has commented on this post. Truly in awe! The correction she made is that the HAES movement has been in existence before Linda did her research and wrote her book, and she is just one of the many “freedom fighters,” as she calls herself and her colleagues, working to get the Health at Any Size Message out there. Thank you, Linda!